{"id":751,"date":"2023-04-20T06:29:02","date_gmt":"2023-04-20T00:59:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/perthescortsdirectory.com.au\/blog\/transform-your-relationship-with-4-proven-techniques-of-efct\/"},"modified":"2023-04-20T06:29:02","modified_gmt":"2023-04-20T00:59:02","slug":"transform-your-relationship-with-4-proven-techniques-of-efct","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/perthescortsdirectory.com.au\/blog\/transform-your-relationship-with-4-proven-techniques-of-efct\/","title":{"rendered":"Transform Your Relationship with 4 Proven Techniques of EFCT"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> [ad_1]<br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" data-attachment-id=\"9033\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/proven-techiques-efct\/copy-of-another-copy-of-blog-post-12\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?fit=1200%2C512&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1200,512\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;\" data-image-title=\"Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?fit=300%2C128&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?fit=710%2C303&amp;ssl=1\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"437\" src=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post-1024x437.png\" alt=\"Couples Therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Transform Your Relationship, Kyle Benson\" class=\"wp-image-9033 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?resize=1024%2C437&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?resize=300%2C128&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?resize=768%2C328&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?w=1200&amp;ssl=1 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 710px) 100vw, 710px\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" data-attachment-id=\"9033\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/proven-techiques-efct\/copy-of-another-copy-of-blog-post-12\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?fit=1200%2C512&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1200,512\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;\" data-image-title=\"Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?fit=300%2C128&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?fit=710%2C303&amp;ssl=1\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"710\" height=\"303\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?resize=710%2C303&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"Couples Therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Transform Your Relationship, Kyle Benson\" class=\"wp-image-9033 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?resize=1024%2C437&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?resize=300%2C128&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?resize=768%2C328&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/Copy-of-Another-Copy-of-Blog-Post.png?w=1200&amp;ssl=1 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 710px) 100vw, 710px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">This article was originally published on <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healingmomentscounseling.net\/bring-back-the-spark-transform-your-relationship-with-these-4-proven-techniques-of-emotionally-focused-couples-therapy\/\">HealingMomentsCounseling.net<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Falling in love is easy. Staying in love is hard.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Romantic relationships can be hard work. The challenges you face as a couple can even smother the spark of passion that brought you together in the first place. Whether it\u2019s the <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/6-relationship-conversations\/\">stress of daily life<\/a>, the challenges of raising a family, or simply the passage of time, many couples find themselves struggling to maintain the <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/emotionally-wealthy-marriages\/\">emotional connection<\/a> they once had.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">As research tells us:\u00a0<\/p>\n<ul class=\"has-black-color has-text-color\">\n<li>Dual-income parents with kids spend the majority of time at home devoted to children and household chores;<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftn1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<li>67% of wives experience a decline in marital satisfaction after having their first child;<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftn2\"><sup>[2]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<li>Emotionally distant couples separate, on average, 14 years after marriage.<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftn3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">If you\u2019re looking to reignite the passion in your relationship, you may want to consider the evidence-based techniques of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) with one of\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healingmomentscounseling.net\/therapists\/\">Healing Moments EFT Trained Therapists<\/a>\u00a0or an\u00a0<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/members.iceeft.com\/member-search.php\">EFT Therapist in your area.<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is a form of therapy that aims to strengthen the emotional connection between partners. Its primary goal is to foster emotional safety and connection to create a <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/attachment-theory\/\">secure relationship<\/a> for both people in the relationship. EFCT interventions take what is happening between partners and restructures their interactions into more vulnerable and connecting experiences.<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftn4\"><sup>[4]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Those key moments of deep connection can offer healing!<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">There is research showing the effectiveness of EFCT in various settings and with diverse couples, including LGBTQIA+.<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftn5\"><sup>[5]<\/sup><\/a>\u00a0Here are four proven techniques of EFT that can help you bring back the spark in your relationship:<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">One of EFT\u2019s core principles is the idea that negative patterns of interaction can damage a relationship. These \u201ccycles\u201d can include anything from <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/criticism-kills-relationships\/\">criticizing each other<\/a>, blaming each other, or <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/how-to-stay-out-of-roach-motel\/\">avoiding each other<\/a> altogether.\u00a0<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">\u201cThe first stage of EFT involves the de-escalation of negative cycle through exploration of unmet <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/anxious-avoidant-relationship\/\">attachment needs<\/a> the fuel the positions each partner takes in the cycle of conflict\u201d (2017).<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftn6\"><sup>[6]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">By identifying these negative patterns, you can begin to replace them with positive ones that reinforce the <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/relationship-trust-commitment\/\">emotional connection<\/a> between you and your partner.<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Instead of getting into the blame game of who is the worst partner, EFCT aims to see how these negative patterns block <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/brain-relationship-conflict\/\">partners from feeling like a team <\/a>when they face various challenges.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">For example, Harper and Logan, a dual-income couple with two toddlers, have recurring conflicts about which one of them is not contributing enough to the household. At the beginning of couples therapy, their fights often looked like this:<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-2\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" data-attachment-id=\"7240\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/vulnerabilities-ruin-relationship\/overcome\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?fit=1200%2C512&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1200,512\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;\" data-image-title=\"Overcome\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?fit=300%2C128&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?fit=710%2C303&amp;ssl=1\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"437\" src=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome-1024x437.png\" alt=\"couples fighting, conflict, emotionally focused couples therapy, Kyle Benson\" class=\"wp-image-7240 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?resize=1024%2C437&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?resize=300%2C128&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?resize=768%2C328&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?w=1200&amp;ssl=1 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 710px) 100vw, 710px\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" data-attachment-id=\"7240\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/vulnerabilities-ruin-relationship\/overcome\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?fit=1200%2C512&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1200,512\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;\" data-image-title=\"Overcome\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?fit=300%2C128&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?fit=710%2C303&amp;ssl=1\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"710\" height=\"303\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?resize=710%2C303&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"couples fighting, conflict, emotionally focused couples therapy, Kyle Benson\" class=\"wp-image-7240 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?resize=1024%2C437&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?resize=300%2C128&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?resize=768%2C328&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/Overcome.png?w=1200&amp;ssl=1 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 710px) 100vw, 710px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\"><strong>Harper:<\/strong>\u00a0You never help out with cleaning up the house. All you do is spend time on your phone.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\"><strong>Logan:<\/strong>\u00a0I\u2019m dealing with both the kids all the time. They are a lot of work. You never want to help out with getting them to bed. And after they go to bed, I DO help out. I do the dishes or laundry. You never notice what I do.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\"><strong>Harper:<\/strong>\u00a0What are you talking about? I\u2019m always helping out with the kids and getting them to bed. All you do is sit on the couch once they are down. Meanwhile, I rarely sit on the couch. I could use that time.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\"><strong>Logan:<\/strong>\u00a0That\u2019s so far from the truth and you know it. Screw you.<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">[Logan leaves the room as Harper follows with more prickly words]\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Harper and Logan name their pattern \u201cThe Overwhelmed Parent.\u201d The next time they find themselves caught in a similar pattern, Harper or Logan simply name the pattern by saying, \u201cThe Overwhelmed Parent pattern is here.\u201d To them, that means that they are both at their capacity and are overwhelmed. Instead of blaming each other for not doing enough, they acknowledge the sense of overwhelm within the pattern and connect with one another. As a result, they both report feeling less distress and more connection.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">By teaming up against the pattern of blaming each other, Harper and Logan have de-escalated their conflicts and made it easier to connect over topics that often led to harsh conflict and emotional distancing.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">The office of a couples therapist is often filled with two versions of \u201cfacts\u201d regarding a conflict a couple has been unable to resolve. For Harper and Logan, for example, Harper\u2019s \u201cfacts\u201d include their sense that Logan doesn\u2019t do enough for the house, while Logan\u2019s \u201cfacts\u201d include a sense that Harper doesn\u2019t do enough with the kids.<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">In debating these details, however, Harper and Logan become stuck in the negative pattern of seeing one another as the problem. But when the couple makes the pattern the problem, the de-escalation creates a space where softer and more <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/couple-dances\/\">vulnerable attachment needs and fears<\/a> can be shared.<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftn7\"><sup>[7]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Harper shares how they fear that they are all alone in the relationship and has to do everything themself. This is an experience that started early in childhood in a family of five siblings. When they shared this vulnerability, Logan, rather than putting up a reactive defense, was able to respond with love and reassurance. Harper felt safer and more connected after sharing this, and Logan  had a new understanding of Harper and how to be there for them.<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Logan then shared the heavy shame due to a feeling of never being enough to be loved. This too started earlier in life, when Logan\u2019s parents would shame Logan for not achieving better grades. This never empowered Logan into learning and growing but rather made Logan feel smaller and disconnected. Harper was shocked to learn this and realized how the couple\u2019s \u201cOverwhelmed Parent\u201d cycle repeatedly touched this vulnerability. As a result, Harper was able to respond with tenderness and care, something Logan desperately needed.\u00a0<\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" data-attachment-id=\"8959\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/intentional-relationship-conflict\/untitled-design-7\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-7.png?fit=700%2C500&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"700,500\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;\" data-image-title=\"Untitled design (7)\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-7.png?fit=300%2C214&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-7.png?fit=700%2C500&amp;ssl=1\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"700\" height=\"500\" src=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-7.png\" alt=\"Couples Therapy, attachment theory, vulnerability, Kyle Benson\" class=\"wp-image-8959 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-7.png?w=700&amp;ssl=1 700w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-7.png?resize=300%2C214&amp;ssl=1 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 700px) 100vw, 700px\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" data-attachment-id=\"8959\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/intentional-relationship-conflict\/untitled-design-7\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-7.png?fit=700%2C500&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"700,500\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;\" data-image-title=\"Untitled design (7)\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-7.png?fit=300%2C214&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-7.png?fit=700%2C500&amp;ssl=1\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"700\" height=\"500\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-7.png?resize=700%2C500&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"Couples Therapy, attachment theory, vulnerability, Kyle Benson\" class=\"wp-image-8959 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-7.png?w=700&amp;ssl=1 700w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/10\/Untitled-design-7.png?resize=300%2C214&amp;ssl=1 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 700px) 100vw, 700px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">When each partner shared their deeper vulnerabilities and the other partner tuned into those needs, the couple was able to create moments of healing and connection. They created new ways of interacting that <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/articles\/profound-intimacy\/\">deepened their intimacy<\/a> and fostered a resilience within the relationship.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">EFCT emphasizes the importance of building a secure emotional bond between partners. A secure bond requires more than just navigating difficult moments together. It involves sharing positive memories, <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/emotionally-wealthy-marriages\/\">expressing gratitude<\/a> for one another, and engaging in meaningful activities that you both enjoy.<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">For example, you might set aside time <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/date-night\/\">each week to do something fun together<\/a>, like taking a dance class or cooking a meal. By creating positive shared experiences like these, you can strengthen the emotional bond between you and your partner and create a sense of shared purpose and intimacy.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">All romantic partners are aware of the ways that having a date night or doing novel activities together can help maintain a stronger connection. EFCT takes it a step further by encouraging partners to turn toward each other in these moments and share vulnerably how they feel.\u00a0<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" data-attachment-id=\"9040\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/proven-techiques-efct\/unnamed-9\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?fit=1064%2C559&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1064,559\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;\" data-image-title=\"unnamed-9\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?fit=300%2C158&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?fit=710%2C373&amp;ssl=1\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"538\" src=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9-1024x538.png\" alt=\"LGBTQIA+ couples therapy, relationship counseling, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy for LGBTQIA+, Kyle Benson\" class=\"wp-image-9040 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?resize=1024%2C538&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?resize=300%2C158&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?resize=768%2C403&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?w=1064&amp;ssl=1 1064w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 710px) 100vw, 710px\"\/><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" data-attachment-id=\"9040\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/proven-techiques-efct\/unnamed-9\/\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?fit=1064%2C559&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1064,559\" data-comments-opened=\"0\" data-image-meta=\"&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;\" data-image-title=\"unnamed-9\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-medium-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?fit=300%2C158&amp;ssl=1\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?fit=710%2C373&amp;ssl=1\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"710\" height=\"373\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?resize=710%2C373&amp;ssl=1\" alt=\"LGBTQIA+ couples therapy, relationship counseling, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy for LGBTQIA+, Kyle Benson\" class=\"wp-image-9040 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?resize=1024%2C538&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?resize=300%2C158&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?resize=768%2C403&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.kylebenson.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/unnamed-9.png?w=1064&amp;ssl=1 1064w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 710px) 100vw, 710px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\"\/><\/noscript><\/figure>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">On one particular date night, Harper and Logan walked along the Seattle waterfront after a couples therapy session. Logan shared how safe they felt while holding Harper and how Harper made life richer. Harper was moved by this and held Logan closer. On the drive home, Logan later shared how much it meant to spend time together and feel connected. \u201cFeeling connected to you makes riding the waves of this sometimes-chaotic life so much easier to overcome,\u201d Logan said. \u201cYou are so important to me.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Finally, EFCT emphasizes the importance of <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/conflict-aftermath\/\">forgiveness and repair in any relationship<\/a>.<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftn8\"><sup>[8]<\/sup><\/a>\u00a0No <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/soulmate-problem\/\">relationship is perfect<\/a>, and <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/conflict-in-relationships\/\">conflicts<\/a> are bound to arise. However, by practicing <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/relationship-connection\/\">turning toward<\/a> the hurt and missed connections with forgiveness and repair, you can help create a sense of <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/relationship-trust-commitment\/\">trust and safety in your relationship<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">From the cradle to the grave, human relationships will create hurt, even when it happens <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/the-intentions-vs-impact-debate-when-partners-unintentionally-hurt-each-other\/\">unintentionally<\/a>. And too often, those moments of hurt and disconnection get amplified by not repairing them.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">But it\u2019s what we do in the aftermath that will make or break the emotional bond we have with one another.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\"><em>Even mothers with newborns are not attuned 70% of the time. These mothers still create a secure attachment because when they become aware of the misconnection, they repair it.<\/em><\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\">\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">A baby who experiences typical mismatch and repair develops into a person with an internal voice that says, I can change things. When people move through mismatch to repair over and over again in relationships, whether as infants or adults, they develop agency, defined earlier as a sense that one has control over one\u2019s life and the power to act effectively in the world. They come to new situations with a hopeful feeling, armed with a positive affective core. But when they carry an expectation of perfection, they miss out on the success of moving through a bad moment to a good one, of bumping the boundaries of their own selves against the boundaries of another.<\/p>\n<p> <cite>Ed Tonick notes in\u00a0<em>The Power of Discord: <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/amzn.to\/3TVJcLa\">Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust<\/a><\/em><\/cite><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">When these moments occur in Harper and Logan\u2019s relationship, they lean toward each other. The hurt partner shares <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/relationship-thermostat\/\">their hurt in a vulnerable way<\/a>, and the other partner leans in with comfort, reassurance, and action to prevent hurt in the future. This way of repairing strengthens their bond and deepens intimacy.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">If you\u2019re looking to bring back the spark in your relationship, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is an evidenced-based path for achieving this. By identifying negative patterns, focusing on emotions and vulnerabilities, building a secure emotional bond, and practicing forgiveness and repair, you can create a more positive, supportive relationship and strengthen the emotional connection between you and your partner. Remember, relationships take work, but with the right techniques and mindset, you can transform your relationship and reignite the passion that brought you together in the first place.<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color has-medium-font-size\">Connect with one of <a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healingmomentscounseling.net\">Healing Moments Counseling Couples Therapists in Seattle<\/a> or with me (<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.healingmomentscounseling.net\">Kyle Benson<\/a>) if you are in Washington State or Flordia.\u00a0<\/p>\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftnref1\"><sup>[1]<\/sup><\/a>\u00a0Campos, B., Graesch, A. P., Repetti, R., Bradbury, T., &amp; Ochs, E. (2009). Opportunity for interaction? A naturalistic observation study of dual-earner families after work and school.\u00a0<em>Journal of Family Psychology,<\/em>\u00a0<em>23<\/em>(6), 798\u2013807. https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1037\/a0015824<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftnref2\"><sup>[2]<\/sup><\/a>\u00a0Shapiro, A. F., Gottman, J. M., &amp; Carr\u00e8re, S. (2000). The baby and the marriage: Identifying factors that buffer against decline in marital satisfaction after the first baby arrives.\u00a0<em>Journal of Family Psychology,<\/em>\u00a0<em>14<\/em>(1), 59\u201370.<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1037\/0893-3200.14.1.59\">\u00a0<\/a><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1037\/0893-3200.14.1.59\">https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1037\/0893-3200.14.1.59<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftnref3\"><sup>[3]<\/sup><\/a>\u00a0Gottman, J. M., &amp; Levenson, R. W. (2002). Generating hypotheses after 14 years of marital followup; Or, how should one speculate? A reply to DeKay, Greeno, and Houck.\u00a0<em>Family Process<\/em>,\u00a0<em>41<\/em>(1), 105\u2013110.<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/j.1545-5300.2002.40102000105.x\">\u00a0<\/a><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/j.1545-5300.2002.40102000105.x\">https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/j.1545-5300.2002.40102000105.x<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftnref4\"><sup>[4]<\/sup><\/a>\u00a0McKinnon, J. M., &amp; Greenberg, L. S. (2017). Vulnerable Emotional Expression In Emotion Focused Couples Therapy: Relating Interactional Processes To Outcome.\u00a0<em>Journal of Marital and Family Therapy<\/em>,\u00a0<em>43<\/em>(2), 198\u2013212.<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/jmft.12229\">\u00a0<\/a><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/jmft.12229\">https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/jmft.12229<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftnref5\"><sup>[5]<\/sup><\/a>Hardtke, K.,\u00a0\u00a0Armstrong, M. S., &amp; Johnson, S. M. (2010). Emotionally focused couple therapy: A full- treatment model well suited to the specific needs of lesbian couples.\u00a0<em>Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy<\/em>\u00a0<em>9<\/em>, 312\u2013326; Allen, R., &amp; Johnson, S. M. (2016). Conceptual and application issues: Emotionally focused therapy with gay male couples.\u00a0<em>Journal of Couple &amp; Relationship Therapy: Innovations in Clinical and Educational Interventions,<\/em>\u00a0<em>16<\/em>, 286\u2013305.<\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftnref6\"><sup>[6]<\/sup><\/a>\u00a0Wiebe, S. A., Johnson, S. M., Lafontaine, M.-F., Burgess Moser, M., Dalgleish, T. L., &amp; Tasca, G. A. (2017). Two-Year Follow-up Outcomes in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: An Investigation of Relationship Satisfaction and Attachment Trajectories.\u00a0<em>Journal of Marital and Family Therapy<\/em>,\u00a0<em>43<\/em>(2), 227\u2013244.<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/jmft.12206\">\u00a0<\/a><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/jmft.12206\">https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/jmft.12206<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftnref7\"><sup>[7]<\/sup><\/a>\u00a0Dalgleish, T. L., Johnson, S. M., Burgess Moser, M., Wiebe, S. A., &amp; Tasca, G. A. (2015). Predicting Key Change Events in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.\u00a0<em>Journal of Marital and Family Therapy<\/em>,\u00a0<em>41<\/em>(3), 260\u2013275.<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/jmft.12101\">\u00a0<\/a><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/jmft.12101\">https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/jmft.12101<\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"has-black-color has-text-color\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"\/\/38C42273-56CB-46DC-8548-13B526D5014F#_ftnref8\"><sup>[8]<\/sup><\/a>\u00a0Zuccarini, D., Johnson, S. M., Dalgleish, T. L., &amp; Makinen, J. A. (2013). Forgiveness and Reconciliation in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples: The Client Change Process and Therapist Interventions.\u00a0<em>Journal of Marital and Family Therapy<\/em>,\u00a0<em>39<\/em>(2), 148\u2013162.<a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/j.1752-0606.2012.00287.x\"><a rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/j.1752-0606.2012.00287.x\">https:\/\/doi.org\/10.1111\/j.1752-0606.2012.00287.x<\/a><\/p>\n<p><h3 class=\"jp-relatedposts-headline\"><em>Related<\/em><\/h3>\n<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><script> !function(f,b,e,v,n,t,s)if(f.fbq)return;n=f.fbq=function()n.callMethod?\nn.callMethod.apply(n,arguments):n.queue.push(arguments);if(!f._fbq)f._fbq=n;\nn.push=n;n.loaded=!0;n.version='2.0';n.queue=[];t=b.createElement(e);t.async=!0;\nt.src=v;s=b.getElementsByTagName(e)[0];s.parentNode.insertBefore(t,s)(window,\ndocument,'script','https:\/\/connect.facebook.net\/en_US\/fbevents.js');\nfbq('init', '1740360289509364');\nfbq('track', \"PageView\");<\/script><br \/>\n<br \/>[ad_2]<br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.kylebenson.net\/proven-techiques-efct\/\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>[ad_1] This article was originally published on HealingMomentsCounseling.net Falling in love is easy. 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