Some serial cheaters are driven by traits like narcissism or entitlement. Others cheat because they\u2019re bored or have low self-esteem. Some enjoy the thrill of secret affairs, of being sneaky and getting away with it. Some cheat because they\u2019re afraid of intimacy. Then there are those who cheat because they have unmet emotional or physical needs within their relationship. Cheating is a complex topic after all.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Getting caught in the rut of being cheated on repeatedly by someone you love so dearly is only going to take a toll on your mental health and sense of self. To help you protect yourself from womanizer signs, we\u2019re here to shed light on how to deal with liars and cheaters, with insights from forensic clinical psychologist Shincy Nair Amin<\/a> (M.Phil., Forensic Psychology), who specializes in working with sexual assault victims and sexual offenders, counseling for depression and anxiety, and is a certified life coach.<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Cheating says a lot about a person<\/a>, and anyone who has crossed the line of fidelity has a lot to answer for. However, when it comes to a pathological cheater, the pursuit of the forbidden fruit becomes a different ball game altogether.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n A serial cheater is a person in a committed, monogamous relationship who consistently seeks multiple relationships outside. Since they are repeat cheaters in marriage or long-term relationships, they suffer from little remorse and hardly feel guilty for their actions.<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n That\u2019s because one of the most defining cheater red flags is that they don\u2019t view cheating as a mistake. If you\u2019re looking for serial cheater personality traits, keep an eye out for these:<\/p>\n Related Reading:<\/strong> What To Do When You\u2019re In A Relationship With A Womanizer<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Now that you understand the serial adultery definition, let\u2019s take a look at the mindset of a cheating wife\/husband. Shedding light on serial cheating psychology, Shincy says \u201cSerial cheaters personality disorder is the \u201crepeated pattern of looking out for people for sexual relationships other than their own partner, without knowledge or consent of the present partner.\u201d This behavior can be seen in both males and females.\u201d<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n As a result, you can find some similarities in the male and female cheating behavior patterns<\/a> as well as the underlying triggers for their inconsistent behavior in a relationship.\u00a0\u201cA scientific study conducted on the Spanish population to understand the chronic cheaters psychology especially among adolescents and young adults showed that committing an act of infidelity for either sexual or emotional reasons was related to an increased level of psychological well-being as it raises their levels of self-esteem.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u201cIt can called the \u2018Cheater\u2019s high\u2019, which means emotional and psychological satisfaction from unethical behavior, due to perceived gains (social, \u00a0financial or other) like:<\/p>\n If it\u2019s the thrill and gratification keeps them going, why do serial cheaters narcissists get married, you may wonder. Or for that matter, why do serial cheaters want to stay married when they derive their gratification from a series of extramarital liaisons?<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Shincy explains,\u201dInterestingly, there are different types of cheaters and not all cheaters cheat for the same reasons. Compulsive cheating disorder is characterized by traits like manipulative behavior, antisocial personality, narcissism\/extreme self importance, sociopathic tendencies and others. These can stem from:<\/p>\n \u201cHowever, cheating is a violation of trust and most victims of cheating go through emotional turmoil questioning their worth or their fault for the failure of that relationship. But, it has nothing to do with the victim; all boils down to the offender\/cheater and their self-destructive tendencies.\u00a0<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n \u201cBut, loving a cheater still remains a scarring experience. Fortunately, there are certain womanizer traits or warning signs she has multiple partners to know if a person you\u2019re in a relationship with or interested in is on this spectrum,\u201d she adds.<\/p>\n Related Reading:<\/strong> 5 Excuses Your Partner Gives For Cheating On You<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Exposing a narcissist <\/a>is not at all easy. \u201cMost common traits of serial cheaters are being less empathetic, disinterested and self-obsessed. Such individuals possess certain attributes that can help you identify a serial cheater in them,\u201d says Shincy. If you can\u2019t shake off the feeling that you\u2019re living with a cheater, pay attention to these tell-tale signs:<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Dating someone with a history of cheating is a major red flag. Even if they feel guilty, the feeling is fleeting at best. The phrase \u201conce a cheat, always a cheat\u201d stands true in their case. Explaining why it is so, Shincy says, \u201cSerial cheaters are known to exhibit an antisocial or sociopathic tendencies, marked by a constant disregard for rules and loyalty toward everyone in their lives.\u201d<\/p>\n People with compulsive cheating disorder always put the blame on external factors:<\/p>\n What do cheaters say when caught? Shincy answers, \u201cA person who cheats in a relationship has a habit of blame-shifting<\/a>. If you\u2019re looking to identify cheating people, the most common and reliable trait is their tendency to always blame others for their bad behavior or fault. They can make the most impressive mental acrobats to prove that others are responsible for their terrible or miserable actions.\u201d<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n He might be indulging in a side affair without your knowledge. Men who are serial cheaters are unusually conscious of their looks. Likewise, if your woman is curling her hair more than often or changing her favorite shade of lipstick, there\u2019s a possibility her side beau likes that particular shade.<\/p>\n We may feel it is normal, but it is a warning sign of cheating we all ignore<\/a>. An unusual focus on looks and grooming habits can indicate you are about to have a heartbreak.<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Lying has to come naturally to a serial cheater. And because smartphones are the holy grail of a person\u2019s interests, purchases, Google searches, the evidence of the lying will be in his gadget. All the secrecy about his gadgets is among the big clues you\u2019re dating a liar:<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Ashlyn, who was married to a cheater, says that his being sneaky in a relationship<\/a> made her smell a rat and dig deeper. \u201cThe repeated adultery signs started becoming apparent when my husband began hiding things from me and then lying to cover his tracks.<\/p>\n Over time my suspicions got the better of me, and one night, I started looking through his phone after he had fallen asleep. Lo and behold, there were not one but three women he was sleeping with on the sly. What causes a man to be a womanizer? I\u2019ll never understand,\u201d she says.<\/p>\n Related Reading:<\/strong>15 Shocking Things Cheaters Say When Confronted<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Another one of the defining traits of cheating men\/women is their inherent charm. They have a way of channelizing it no matter where they are. They can charm your socks off and are socially smooth as butter. And because they like the thrill of the chase, their charm meter is always on.<\/p>\n Sometimes even strangers are taken over by how pleasing they can really be. A serial cheater will not stop at charming just you and strangers. While meeting your friends too, they will talk their ears off, and in all possibility, your friends will love them.<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Guilt is simply not their thing, and if you wonder why a cheater would cheat again<\/a>, it is practically this. I mean serial cheaters possibly cannot feel bad otherwise they wouldn\u2019t opt for constant cheating.<\/p>\n The signs he doesn\u2019t regret cheating stem from the adrenaline rush. When something makes you feel so good about yourself, it\u2019s hard to look down upon it. \u201cA serial cheater personality disorder can be identified by their proclivity for risk and sensation seeking. Though this is an exciting trait to fall for and is seen as the foundation of attraction among many young couples, this adrenaline-seeking behavior can seep into the love life and tend to make them cheaters,\u201d says Shincy. \u00a0<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Do they still have Tinder or Grindr on their phone after you have made things official? This means they are not ready to commit fully or at all. They are not really commitment-phobes<\/a>, but they know that they do not want to commit.<\/p>\n This becomes an even bigger threat to a relationship in these tech-driven times when all the avenues to cheat are just a click away. So, when Paul says he still hasn\u2019t uninstalled Tinder because \u201cit\u2019s a good time pass\u201d<\/em> and Karen believes him, what she doesn\u2019t realize is that Paul has been sexting two women while in bed with her.<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n If caught, he may even totally negate your argument that sexting qualifies as cheating<\/a> in a relationship. Not being fully committed could also mean they have relationship PTSD from the past. But all the signs mixed together can mean trouble.<\/p>\n You will have to give it to them, they are smart as hell and can change the way people see them. A little crying, a little laughter, with some emotional manipulation<\/a> thrown in the mix, and they get away with their actions:<\/p>\n What do cheaters say, you wonder? Let\u2019s face it \u2013 saying \u201cI feel like killing myself\u201d will make everyone worried and the distraction from the truth is granted.<\/p>\n Related Reading:<\/strong> 20 Warning Signs Of A Cheating Husband Which Defines An Extra Marital Affair<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n They cannot pass a mirror without fixing their hair. They like the world revolving around them. Another sure-shot trait of people addicted to cheating \u2013 they believe themselves to be the best. And when they do not get the appreciation they think they deserve for doing the least possible thing, they step outside with their charm to seek it from someone else.<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Do guys with low self-esteem<\/a> cheat? Shincy agrees, \u201cThe one thing all cheaters have in common is narcissism. Such people have a tendency to always look for others to feed their egos. Behind the flamboyance, a narcissist is insecure and needs others to make them feel worthy by constant reassurance. Hence, it becomes difficult for them to understand others\u2019 wishes or feel remorse or guilt for their actions.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n One of the defining characteristics of serial cheaters is their outgoing nature. They like to party, socialize and be the center of attention wherever they go. Partying is second nature to them, and they will indulge in it, with or without you. They mostly have friends to go to parties with. And it\u2019s not just alcohol.<\/p>\n Gambling, substance abuse plays a role in a serial cheater\u2019s life. Why do alcoholics cheat on their spouses? Well, when the inhibitions get lower, things happen. When you get to know them up close, it\u2019s not hard to identify a serial cheater. After all, they are the bearers of relationship red flags<\/a>. The tricky thing though is that despite seeing the worrying behavior patterns, you may fall for their charming, smooth-talking ways.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n How to tell if a man has multiple partners<\/a>? They flirt. A lot. And say \u2013 \u201cIt was harmless\u201d. Looking for signs he will never be faithful? A serial womanizer would end up:<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Even serial cheaters narcissists can have a morally-high friend circle. If you have gotten hints from them about your partner being with too many people at the same time, don\u2019t downplay it. Friends know more personal things from the past that you might be privy to in your relationship with a serial cheater.<\/p>\n Related Reading:<\/strong> My Boyfriend Is Flirting Online With Other Girls<\/a><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n They tend to be more subtle about it and might dismiss them as a light-hearted joke (because they don\u2019t want you to break up), but the hints are always present. These could well all be attempts to hide from you the fact that she\/he keeps on cheating again and again:<\/p>\n Has it happened that you walked in into a party with him and after being introduced as his partner someone kept looking at you quizzically? This is a classic tell-tale sign that the person, maybe someone they were going around with earlier, is trying to fathom what kind of a relationship you share with them now.<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Or perhaps, your partner was hanging out with the same group of people with a different \u2018partner\u2019 by their side just days ago. Know that narcissists cannot maintain intimate relationships<\/a>.<\/p>\n With all the lies, the secrets, the sleeping around, they need to be organized. They are like serial killers who have their kill weapons pre-planned. For serial cheaters, the kill weapon is their mind and they want everything to be like they like them. There is no scope for any mistake.<\/p>\n How to catch a cheater<\/a> in the act? If you want to truly understand whether your partner displays the personality characteristics of cheaters, study their responses when you ask their whereabouts. A serial cheater will always:<\/p>\n I am not saying you throw your partner out because you have a gut feeling that they\u2019re serial cheaters in marriage or relationships. But don\u2019t ignore it either. Most of the time, our gut tells us things our mind hasn\u2019t quite accepted. Even if you trust your partner completely and your gut does a somersault about the way things are in your relationship, don\u2019t let the feeling go.<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Serial cheaters are not common to come by. But if you do end up in a relationship with one, it can wreck you for a long, long time. For their part, they won\u2019t even wince once before betraying your trust and dishonoring the vows of commitment. \u201cFooled you once, will fool you again and again\u201d \u2013 that\u2019s what makes them tick.<\/p>\n \u201cLook out for these characteristics of serial cheaters when you enter a relationship. According to infidelity psychology, men who stray cannot keep a poker face and can be predicted by a decent degree of accuracy. But interestingly, women who cheat are pretty much impossible to read,\u201d advises Shincy. So, if you\u2019re looking for the Who Is A Serial Cheater?<\/h2>\n
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