How do you tell if a man is serious about you<\/strong><\/a> versus just playing you?<\/p>\n This is one of the most crucial questions any woman can ask herself, because a lot of men can fake it until they get what they\u2019re after\u2026..sex.<\/p>\n And then they drop off the radar. Some are more brazen than others. Some men will ghost you<\/strong><\/a> whilst others will do the slow fade<\/strong><\/a>;<\/strong> pretending to be nice until they can\u2019t keep up the facade anymore.<\/p>\n As a woman, you must remember:<\/p>\n So many men are highly skilled at faking their desire for serious relationships that many women are still falling for the \u201cact\u201d. And this act is usually called future faking. Another term for this behavior is love bombing.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Even if a guy isn\u2019t love bombing you, he may just gently give off signs he wants a serious relationship with you without actually wanting a committed relationship with you.<\/p>\n So you need to be smart, alert and relaxed enough in your nervous system to pick up on what\u2019s real and what is not.<\/p>\n If you don\u2019t know the signs he\u2019s genuinely interested versus the signs he\u2019s future faking, you may waste years of your life \u2013 and oodles of emotional energy and attachment<\/strong><\/a> on the wrong man.<\/p>\n Would you like to discover how serious he is about you? You can take our FREE quiz to find out for yourself:<\/p>\n QUIZ TIME: Is your man serious about committing to you? CLICK HERE to find out with this specially crafted quiz!<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n The first thing to know is that what you think is a serious relationship may not actually be serious in a man\u2019s mind.<\/p>\n This is true even if he wants to be exclusive with you.<\/p>\n Just because a guy is in an exclusive relationship with you, does not mean he\u2019s taking you seriously.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t get me wrong; in some cases it can<\/em> be a good sign that he does, but it\u2019s no proof. It\u2019s a soft sign rather than an obvious sign he\u2019s emotionally committed.<\/p>\n Look:<\/p>\n When you think of a \u201cserious relationship\u201d, you likely assume that he will commit to you not only exclusively, but emotionally too.<\/p>\n Because that\u2019s what you naturally do as a woman. That\u2019s where your equilibrium lies.<\/p>\n But a man can \u201cbe exclusive\u201d with a woman for years, only to leave her, fall in love with another woman and marry her at the drop of a hat.<\/p>\n Yes, men can be this distasteful. Sometimes they do it consciously, sometimes they do it subconsciously (without meaning to hurt you) \u2013 they\u2019re just doing the best for themselves.<\/p>\n Related reading:<\/strong><\/p>\n So what you\u2019re really looking for here are not just signs he wants a serious relationship with you, but the signs he sees you as his \u201cone and only\u201d \u2013 not his \u201cone of many\u201d.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re a man\u2019s one and only, he won\u2019t fall in love with another woman and leave you. He\u2019ll take his commitment to you extremely seriously.<\/p>\n So what is the \u201cone and only\u201d? She is the one he commits all of his emotional, physical, financial and spiritual resources to, because he\u2019s deeply in love<\/strong><\/a> and pair bonded to her.<\/p>\n Conversely the \u201cone of many\u201d woman is the woman he might spend one night with, or even the woman he spends 10 years with.<\/p>\n The \u201cone of many\u201d woman is the woman who he sees as not any different from any other woman he could be with.<\/p>\n Sure, he might love her as a friend or find her sexually desirable, but he won\u2019t emotionally commit or give up his life for her, as he would the one and only.<\/p>\n MORE: The Women Men Commit To Versus The Women Men Leave.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Just FYI, there are only two baskets in which men place women into.<\/p>\n You might be wondering whether being the one of many means he can have multiple women at once, and the answer is yes.<\/p>\n Even if he\u2019s \u201ctechnically\u201d exclusive with her.<\/p>\n So in this article, I will be concentrating on all the authentic signs he sees you as his \u201cone and only\u201d (which is the genuine precursor to him taking you seriously) \u2013 and not just a woman he keeps around, or just a fling.<\/p>\n Related: Why Does He Keep Me Around If He Doesn\u2019t Want A Relationship?<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Would you like to learn the 5 feminine secrets to have your chosen man fall in love with you and BEG you to be his one and only? I will teach you the exact steps on how to achieve this in my popular program \u201cBecoming His One and Only\u201d. CLICK here to get access to his program.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n (The promise of this course is for you to have your chosen man fall in love with you & beg you to be his one & only by embodying these 5 feminine secrets, even if he\u2019s been distant, avoidant, or losing interest\u2026)<\/p>\n As my husband D.Shen<\/a><\/strong> says, \u201che plays at your level.\u201d<\/p>\n I\u2019ve been teaching for a while now that high value banter is the ultimate test of attunement, and attunement or the willingness to attune is a sign that a guy is at the very least, willing to attune to you.<\/p>\n A guy who will not banter back to you or play at your level is a guy who is only willing to put in minimal effort in return for sex.<\/p>\n Or he\u2019s the manipulative and toxic type who cannot stand banter, since it introduces an element of uncertainty into the situation through playfulness.<\/p>\n Controlling men \u2013 toxic men \u2013 do not like this uncertainty, as it strips the carpet from beneath their feet.<\/p>\n But that\u2019s the job of banter, and if you lead with banter in your interactions with men, you\u2019ll learn very quickly which ones are worth your time and which ones are absolutely not.<\/p>\n So in order to conduct the test of banter, you need to throw him a curveball (initiate banter). You can use these 5 Revealing Questions To Ask A Guy to Know His Intentions.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n If he plays back at your level and enjoys connecting with you, he\u2019s a high quality guy and has a higher commitment potential.<\/p>\n In order to get some examples, check out our FREE high value banter class (run by my husband, David.)<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n And read my jointly-authored article (with hubby): What Is Banter & How To Banter With Men To Build Attraction?<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n A guy who is seeking a serious relationship with you will have empathy for your feelings.<\/p>\n If he\u2019s really in love, he\u2019ll take it one step further: he will actively feel the emotions you feel, if he senses that you need that kind of empathy.<\/p>\n There are few solid signs a guy genuinely wants to make you his one and only, but this is one of them.<\/p>\n His empathy is a sign that he wants to be a part of you, and he wants you to be a part of him<\/p>\n This is a type of emotional intimacy that guys who are faking it can\u2019t replicate.<\/p>\n They can offer a surface level of \u201ccaring\u201d \u2013 as in, they can act like they care about you, but you\u2019ll never see them feeling what you feel.<\/p>\n The telltale sign a guy is feeling what you feel?<\/p>\n When his level of empathy almost scares you\u2026I know that sounds weird. But it\u2019s true.<\/p>\n It may scare you because you suddenly realize this guy is serious about you and it work work long term unless you return the same kind of empathy (which is hard to do unless you\u2019re also in love).<\/p>\n![\"signs](\"https:\/\/www.thefemininewoman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/lovely-1024x1003.jpg.webp\")
<\/a><\/figure>\n<\/div>\nHow Do You Tell If A Man Is Serious About You?<\/strong><\/h2>\n
10 Indisputable Signs He Wants A Serious Relationship With You<\/strong><\/h2>\n
1: He Passes The Banter Test<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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<\/a>2: He Feels What You Feel<\/strong><\/h2>\n