How is it possible that you can feel like someone is close to you, yet somehow still really far away?<\/p>\n
Enter the dreaded mixed signal.<\/strong><\/p>\n Nobody likes receiving them, yet so many of us give<\/strong> them.<\/p>\n Navigating mixed signals from a guy is one of the most emotionally draining things you could do.<\/p>\n Not only do you have to live in this thick fog of confusion, you also have to consider the possibility that there\u2019s something bad<\/em><\/strong> he\u2019s hiding from you.<\/p>\n In the context of dating and relationships, mixed signals are when a guy gives you signs that he\u2019s interested in you whilst simultaneously showing a lack of interest.<\/strong><\/p>\n This causes pain and confusion for you obviously, and I\u2019m here to help you lift the fog on this.<\/p>\n Want to find out how serious he is about you? Take our FREE quiz to find out for sure: QUIZ TIME: Is your man serious about committing to you? CLICK HERE to find out with this specially crafted quiz!<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n I could tell you that mixed signals from a guy mean he\u2019s not that into you.<\/p>\n Yet the truth is slightly more complex than that.<\/p>\n However, since I would hate for you to leave this article feeling even more confused than you already are, I\u2019m going to distill the meaning of mixed signals down for you:<\/p>\n Most of the time, mixed signals from a guy simply mean he\u2019s not going to invest in a relationship with you<\/strong><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n In this case, you should try your absolute best not to need <\/em>the crumbs he\u2019s giving you and be willing to walk away.<\/p>\n Now:<\/p>\n There are situations where it\u2019s not simply about a man\u2019s lack of true interest in committing to you or a lack of attraction.<\/p>\n Meaning he does<\/em> like you, however there are other factors going on with him internally that are causing him to send mixed signals.<\/p>\n But what factors exactly?<\/p>\n The first factor I need to mention here is an avoidant attachment style.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Men with an avoidant attachment style may send out mixed signals because of their fear of intimacy.<\/p>\n Sometimes it\u2019s not even just fear \u2013 sometimes it\u2019s just that they\u2019re only capable of superficial connection with you.<\/p>\n Thus when you want more vulnerability or intimacy with them, they may recoil, acting like they\u2019re not ready for commitment \u2013 or just not interested in emotional intimacy with you.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s an example of what this may look and feel like (from a lady in our facebook group<\/strong><\/a> who considers both herself and her man to have an avoidant attachment style):<\/p>\n It is not a perfect example, but this example shows us that whilst an avoidant can act interested in you, they may also act aloof, sending you into a confused state.<\/p>\n Next, I should mention that there\u2019s one other important factor that causes men (or women) to send mixed signals, and that is fear.<\/p>\n But what would \u201cfear\u201d<\/em><\/strong> look like when translated into behavior?<\/p>\n It looks (and feels) like tension. Specifically, the tension of expressing interest in you whilst rarely following through.<\/p>\n Every move they make towards you seems enthusiastic \u2013 almost genuine<\/em> \u2013 but any positive momentum always comes to a screeching halt.<\/p>\n Yes, that kind of tension.<\/p>\n When a guy is sending mixed signals due to fear, it may be due to things such as:<\/p>\n Regardless of the reason, what you\u2019re dealing with is constant uncertainty. And it sucks.<\/p>\n It\u2019s bad for you either way you look at it, because it leads to more anxiety and even trauma for you.<\/p>\n On that note, you might be interested in the case study we did with our anxiously attached Alena: Discover how the introverted Alena got her man to ask her out almost instantly<\/strong><\/a> and for the very first time in her life, she started attracting highly esteemed men & making real progress in overcoming her own anxious attachment patterns\u2026 All by using this dark feminine art of banter.<\/p>\n We can\u2019t have this discussion without addressing something important:<\/p>\n Mixed signals aren\u2019t even a thing if you\u2019re not buying into them.<\/p>\n Let me explain this by introducing the idea that there are two types of people on the dating scene:<\/p>\n As I\u2019ve said before, you get what you tolerate in relationships.<\/p>\n If you \u201cbuy into\u201d mixed signals, you get to live the life of confusion and disconnection. You\u2019ll stay in pseudo relationships where there\u2019s no emotional connection and no emotional attraction.<\/p>\n (Also known as situationships.<\/strong><\/a>)<\/p>\n Having said all this, I\u2019m not blaming you for buying into mixed signals, as I have bought into them before as well!<\/p>\n But we can\u2019t ignore the truth, and I want you to know that some people are more vulnerable to jumping on the mixed signals train than others.<\/p>\n This gives us people who are more vulnerable to getting lost in the land of \u201che loves me, he loves me not\u201d <\/em>something to work towards.<\/p>\n With that said, now let\u2019s look at some examples of common mixed signals from guys.<\/p>\n There are 7 common signs a woman is perceived as low value to all men, because men simply perceive value differently to women. Do you know what these signs are and how to avoid them like the plague? CLICK HERE to download this special report. <\/span><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n One of the most common mixed signals from a man is when he says he wants to date you, but he won\u2019t (or hasn\u2019t) taken his profile down.<\/p>\n He may even be exclusive with you, almost acting like he\u2019s your official boyfriend, but one day you get a call from your BFF telling you that she came across this guy\u2019s profile on match.com.<\/p>\n Ouch\u2026<\/p>\n What does this all mean?<\/p>\n It means he\u2019s not all in.<\/p>\n He might try to justify it in many different ways, such as \u201cI forgot to take it down\u201d, \u201cI didn\u2019t think we were fully committed\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m just seeing what\u2019s out there\u201d, but it doesn\u2019t change the facts.<\/p>\n His dating profile is still up.<\/p>\n Unless he honestly forgot to take it down \u2013 or you guys have only been on one or two dates thus it\u2019s understandable that he hasn\u2019t taken his profile down yet, it\u2019s a sign that:<\/p>\n MORE: How To Get Him To Commit The High Value Way + 1 Mistake To AVOID.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n (Read: situationship).<\/p>\n We live in funny times, where people (at least on a population level) are committing to less and wanting to take more.<\/p>\n This is evident on the dating scene where many men and women both have extreme FOMO, can\u2019t resist the urge to keep their online dating options open, and don\u2019t really honor the important concepts of loyalty and taking responsibility.<\/p>\n Now does this mean that there are no loyal men and women out there?<\/p>\n No. They\u2019re still out there, for sure.<\/p>\n It just means that looking at the collective consciousness of the single population, people are less focused on family and loyalty than they were many decades ago.<\/p>\n The idea of loyalty and family has been degraded along with traditional values, and it reflects in the general population.<\/p>\n This has given rise to:<\/p>\n This refusal to define the relationship (whilst still showing interest on a superficial level) is a classic mixed signal.<\/p>\n Some men have even tried to come up with new \u201cloose\u201d definitions of \u201cexclusivity\u201d. Take a look at this example of such appalling behavior from a lady in our facebook group:<\/p>\n The audacity right?<\/p>\n Nice try I guess, but to water down the idea of exclusivity to \u201cnot a couple\u201d but just only dating each other is a confusing way of keeping a woman in a situationship.<\/p>\n I don\u2019t blame the guy though. He\u2019s looking out for his own reproductive interests, but it\u2019s an \u201cinteresting\u201d way of doing it.<\/p>\n From a woman\u2019s perspective, this is disrespectful.<\/p>\n CLICK HERE to LEARN the one specific emotional trigger <\/span><\/b>within every masculine man that inspires him to want to take care of you, worship you and deeply commit to you.<\/a><\/p>\n Another common mixed signal from guys is when they\u2019re affectionate with you in private only<\/em> \u2013 never in public.<\/p>\n If your guy is doing this and it makes you feel bad, listen to that bad feeling.<\/p>\n It usually doesn\u2019t mean anything good for you.<\/p>\n It most likely means that he doesn\u2019t want to publicly declare that he is seeing you or dating you. He wants to keep it a secret. And that\u2019s because:<\/p>\n You can\u2019t ignore the obvious here. Someone who has found their \u201cone\u201d is proud to declare it publicly, whether that\u2019s verbally or simply through their actions.<\/p>\n As someone who has been helping women find their \u201cone\u201d for 14 years, I can tell you that this is bad news. It\u2019s possibly also degrading as a woman.<\/p>\n To be all over you in private (because he can get sex that way) and be the complete opposite in public is just not on.<\/p>\n There\u2019s a small chance he has issues with public displays of affection, but that\u2019s not likely.<\/p>\n What would I recommend?<\/p>\n Always ensure that you\u2019re a man\u2019s one and only before giving over your emotions, your time, your energy and your heart.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re in the \u201cone and only\u201d basket, you\u2019ll never get crumbs. You\u2019ll get all of him and more. He\u2019ll go above and beyond to make you happy.<\/p>\n He\u2019ll take great pride in providing you with security, safety and happiness.<\/p>\n Want to learn how to make sure you\u2019ll always be in his one and only basket? I made a whole program for you on this called \u201cBecoming His One and Only\u201d.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n (The promise of this course is for you to have your chosen man fall in love with you & beg you to be his one & only by embodying these 5 feminine secrets, even if he\u2019s been distant, avoidant, or losing interest\u2026)<\/p>\n Words cost little. Actions cost a fortune.<\/p>\n Thus we have men who will flatter you and compliment you to no end, making you feel like he might just see you as perfect\u2026<\/p>\n Only, he treats you as if you\u2019re an afterthought.<\/p>\n This happened to a friend of mine long ago. I couldn\u2019t believe how slimy it was (of him).<\/p>\n She discovered that he wasn\u2019t fully serious about her, so she wanted to break up with him.<\/p>\n But he kept trying to reel her back in by saying:<\/p>\n \u201cI found the perfect girl too soon.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n \u201cYou\u2019re the best woman I\u2019ve ever dated.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n And\u2026<\/p>\n \u201cIf we met 10 years from today, we\u2019d be married.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n As a woman it\u2019s easy to buy into this mess \u2013 this mumble jumble of enticing words.<\/p>\n But it means zilch.<\/p>\n It\u2019s just a way for him to buy himself more time to get sex and attention from you.<\/p>\n Sure he might \u201clike\u201d you. He might even love you in the way he might love a teddy bear \u2013 or a glass of red wine.<\/p>\n But he\u2019s not committed emotionally.<\/p>\n He\u2019s not there when it matters. And he likely never will be.<\/p>\n That\u2019s a harsh truth, I know. It\u2019s really not easy to get used to the idea that someone you\u2019ve let into your life (and perhaps your body) doesn\u2019t care (enough) about you.<\/p>\n But life is harsh like that.<\/p>\n The earlier we can accept that most people don\u2019t really care, the more seriously we start to take the process of testing<\/strong><\/a> and vetting men.<\/p>\n Not to mention how much more quickly we are able to find \u201cthe one\u201d who truly loves us and wants the best for us.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s a simple test you can use\u2026there is one specific phrase you can say to a man to test how far he\u2019s willing to go for you: CLICK here to discover the one thing you can say to ANY man that will capture his attention, trigger his curiosity and make him hang onto every word you say!<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n (Um\u2026..WTH?)<\/p>\n If we want to talk about manipulative behavior, this is it. Some men will intentionally send mixed signals by talking about their ex girlfriend or wife.<\/p>\n Other men don\u2019t have bad intent (at least they\u2019re not deliberately trying to make you feel bad), but they\u2019re unsure of who to choose, so they talk about their ex.<\/p>\n There\u2019s also a possibility that you were a rebound<\/strong><\/a> for him, and he\u2019s going through the comparison stage<\/strong><\/a> (thus he compares you to his ex and vice versa).<\/p>\n Either way, this is a mixed signal.<\/p>\n He\u2019s dating you, but he reminisces about his ex\u2026.to you.<\/p>\n Or he mentions all the awesome things she used to do, as a way to make you do more for him (without him actually committing any more to you).<\/p>\n This is also a sign he might be breadcrumbing you<\/strong><\/a>, so just be careful.<\/p>\n Again, he might just be a very confused guy. We can\u2019t assume nefarious intent in every man.<\/p>\n All I\u2019m suggesting to you is:<\/p>\n Another great testing method to weed out the toxic and manipulative men (and separate them from the good hearted men), is to engage in some high value banter with him.<\/p>\n Lead with some banter to see how willing he is to actually put effort into connecting with you and attuning himself to you.<\/p>\n CLICK Here to take our FREE class in high value banter (lots of free examples included).<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Look: \u201cOnline Dating\u201d has completely changed \u2013<\/strong> <\/strong>CLICK to Learn Why you as a woman need to use the dark art of \u201cHigh Value Banter\u201d<\/strong><\/a> to quickly weed out the weak and create emotional chemistry with the \u201cBEST of MEN\u201d!<\/strong><\/p>\n (\u2026Even if no man has ever given you any love and all you\u2019ve encountered so far are pen pals, ghosts, booty calls, and duds!)<\/em><\/p>\n It almost seems like the common theme in mixed signals is that actions speak louder than words. Would you agree with that statement?<\/p>\n Because this sign screams not only mixed signals, but that words need to be backed up with actions.<\/p>\n If a guy tells you he misses you but seems way more interested in other things<\/strong> in his life than he does in planning a date with you, that simply means he\u2019s keeping you around in the background; nothing more.<\/p>\n He\u2019s giving just enough to keep you around, albeit hanging by a thread.<\/p>\n But if you are feeling desperate, you might hang on for dear life. And it will waste all your precious time away.<\/p>\n So learn to acknowledge your own feelings \u2013 they are there to guide you.<\/p>\n In other words, if it frustrates you that he \u201csays he misses you\u201d but doesn\u2019t have the actions to back those words up, it means something is not right here.<\/p>\n For more on this, read this article I wrote: When He Says He Misses You: But Does He Really?<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n If a guy is super warm one minute and cold as an iceberg the next, it\u2019s not only a bit odd, it\u2019s a classic mixed signal.<\/p>\n![\"mixed](\"https:\/\/www.thefemininewoman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/08\/mixed-1024x733.jpg.webp\")
<\/a><\/figure>\n<\/div>\nWhat Do Mixed Signals From A Guy Mean?<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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<\/a><\/figure>\nWho Even Buys Into Mixed Signals?<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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Basically, for some people, it\u2019s possible to see mixed signals in almost any situation.)<\/li>\n
For these people, the concept of a mixed signal is rather hard to understand, because they\u2019re a nothing kind of thing. They discard anyone who isn\u2019t proving their investment in the relationship.
They take surface interest without the deeper proof<\/strong> to mean \u201cno interest\u201d.
These people are often the securely attached,<\/strong><\/a> confident people who are willing to call BS when they see it.
They naturally trust actions <\/em>over words<\/em> and don\u2019t have time for the \u201cwhat ifs\u201d or the \u201cbut he liked my instagram story\u201d type of thoughts.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n8 Examples Of Mixed Signals From A Guy<\/strong><\/h2>\n
1: He Says He Only Wants You, But His Dating Profile Is Still Up<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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<\/a><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n2: He Doesn\u2019t Want to Define The Relationship (Keeping You In The Land Of Limbo)<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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3: He\u2019s Not Affectionate In Public, Only In Private<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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4: He Flatters You, But His Actions Don\u2019t Match The Flattery<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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5: He Talks About His Ex<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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5: He Says He Misses You, But Never Plans Dates<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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<\/a><\/figure>\n6: Hot And Cold Behavior<\/strong><\/h2>\n