Are you feeling a little scared that the man you love is slipping away?<\/p>\n
Well, let me tell you that it\u2019s natural to lose some<\/em> level of interest in a long term, committed relationship.<\/p>\n You may not feel that way right now, but if you look at the definition of \u201cinterest\u201d, it starts to make sense.<\/p>\n Cambridge<\/a> dictionary defines \u201cinterest\u201d as:<\/p>\n \u201cA feeling that accompanies or causes special attention to something or someone.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n And the verb\u2026<\/p>\n \u201cTo engage the attention or arouse the interest of.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n At some point, you or a man is going to lose interest for a short period of time. And even if your man hasn\u2019t lost interest, you\u2019re going to feel like he is losing interest just because you\u2019re a woman, and you thrive upon him giving you attention.<\/p>\n Your femininity grows<\/a><\/strong> when he gives you his presence and attention.<\/p>\n But if he has something going on like a big project at work that requires all of his attention (and that he is preoccupied with), you may start to feel like he\u2019s losing interest when he\u2019s not.<\/p>\n He\u2019s just in a different masculine \u201cmode\u201d.<\/p>\n I\u2019ve mentioned before that there\u2019s a difference between a man being interested in you, and a man being serious about you:<\/p>\n MORE: Is He SERIOUS About You Or is He Just \u201cInterested\u201d? Critical Distinction.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n This doesn\u2019t mean that you don\u2019t want<\/em> men\u2019s interest of course, as interest can often be the absolute beginning <\/em>of him falling in love.<\/p>\n But ultimately, you want more than just his interest.<\/p>\n You want him to see you as his \u201cone and only\u201d \u2013 because he\u2019s fallen in love and wants to be pair bonded to you for life.<\/p>\n Regardless, a guy losing interest can lead to a loss of a relationship for you, and that can be painful.<\/p>\n The way to fix this is to ensure that you\u2019re in his \u201cone and only\u201d basket, rather than the alternative \u2013 which is the \u201cone of many\u201d basket.<\/p>\n See, when a man dates a woman, he places her in one of two categories very quickly. Those categories are:<\/p>\n When you\u2019re in the \u201cone of many\u201d basket \u2013 he could be your boyfriend for ten years and never give you his full commitment.<\/p>\n It is only when you\u2019re a man\u2019s one and only that his interest (but more importantly, his love) will last a lifetime.<\/p>\n More than that \u2013 his love and commitment will be exclusively for you.<\/p>\n Would you like to learn the exact steps to becoming any man\u2019s one and only woman? I teach you these exact steps in my popular program \u201cBecoming His One and Only\u201d<\/strong><\/a>.\u00a0(The promise of this course is for you to have your chosen man fall in love with you & beg you to be his one & only by embodying these 5 feminine secrets, even if he\u2019s been distant, avoidant, or losing interest\u2026)<\/p>\n Regardless, a guy losing interest can lead to a loss of a relationship for you, and that can be painful.<\/p>\n Then there are cases where a guy losing interest becomes a more permanent thing.<\/p>\n It may be that there has been a gradual build up of negative associations with you (or with each other) in the relationship, to the point where the positive moments vastly outweigh the negative moments.<\/p>\n It may be that you\u2019ve criticized, punished or emasculated him and it\u2019s caused his feelings to turn sour.<\/p>\n It may just be that your relationship was painfully boring, and in such a case, all of us would lose interest.<\/p>\n Related: What Makes A Woman Boring & How Not to Be Boring to Men?<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n CLICK HERE to discover the ONE PHRASE <\/span><\/b>you can say to ANY man that will capture his attention, trigger his curiosity and make him hang onto every word you say! (Works like magic in a high vale non-needy way!)<\/a><\/p>\n If you\u2019re really into him, then you may be wondering, am I overthinking or is he losing interest?<\/p>\n And this question will drive you crazy.<\/p>\n The answer is two-fold.<\/p>\n Firstly: it\u2019s natural to overthink this issue as a woman, because there\u2019s a lot of miscommunication that happens in a relationship between a man and a woman.<\/p>\n Women are always looking to feel cherished, and to see signs of investment and romantic love from their men.<\/p>\n Conversely, men are always looking to gain more skills and worth as a provider, and this takes their attention away from the connection in the relationship.<\/p>\n (Even if it looks like they\u2019re spending time on stupid things to you).<\/p>\n This difference causes women to think they\u2019ve lost interest, but of course sometimes the more we question him about it, the more he runs the other way.<\/p>\n In this case, it\u2019s a downhill road for you \u2013 straight to anxiousness.<\/p>\n This anxiety will lead you to overthink.<\/p>\n Secondly: if he\u2019s not invested in the relationship anymore, he\u2019s definitely not interested and you\u2019re not overthinking.<\/p>\n So that\u2019s the key: figure out whether he\u2019s investing in you and in the relationship<\/strong><\/a>, or whether he\u2019s pulling his investment away (or worse, his investment is going to other women).<\/p>\n If he is pulling his investment away and you want it back, I suggest to you my program \u201cHow to Stay High Value When He Pulls Away\u201d.<\/strong><\/a> (The promise of this course is for you to learn the secret to showing up & staying as a high value woman when your man pulls away, so that he can come back to you with more interest, more desire & more appreciation for you.)<\/p>\n Regardless, there are some clear signs he\u2019s losing interest, so let\u2019s have a look at those now. After we\u2019ve gone through the signs, we\u2019ll talk about what you can do about it.<\/p>\n By the way, if you see less than 5 of these signs on the list, there could be something else going on, meaning he\u2019s not really<\/em> losing interest.<\/p>\n If you see 5 or more of these signs, it\u2019s time to assess what\u2019s going on in the relationship and see what you can do to build the attraction and connection up again.<\/p>\n If you see 7 or more of these signs, then either your relationship is on the outs or you\u2019re dealing with a toxic<\/strong><\/a> or insecurely attached (perhaps avoidant) guy.<\/p>\n \u2026And consistently seeks other avenues of entertainment or connection when you\u2019re with him.<\/p>\n Simply put, if your guy can\u2019t stand to be around you and is always more interested in other things, even when you walk in the room naked<\/em><\/strong>, then it\u2019s possible he\u2019s losing interest.<\/p>\n Unless he\u2019s busy playing a video game<\/strong><\/a> or is on an important phone call, then you walking in naked would always produce some level of reaction in him.<\/p>\n Even if he\u2019s a respectful gentleman who desires to give you space without groping you.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll see a smile or at least some of his energy coming your way.<\/p>\n If he hasn\u2019t even got that, then you really have to wonder what\u2019s going on with him.<\/p>\n You can find out how serious he is about you with my free quiz: QUIZ TIME: Is your man serious about committing to you? CLICK HERE to find out with this specially crafted quiz!<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Does he avoid spending time with you? Even when you offer to cook his favorite meal or play his favorite video game with him?<\/p>\n Then he might be losing interest in you.<\/p>\n There could be other reasons for this of course, not every<\/em> sign spells the death of his interest in you, but if this sign is accompanied by a lot of the other signs on my list, then it\u2019s time to pay attention.<\/p>\n A clear sign he\u2019s losing interest is when he refuses to discuss future plans or opts out of previously organized plans for the future.<\/p>\n A man losing interest in you in the short term<\/em> is one thing, but him opting out of future plans with you, cancelling plans completely or refusing to plan anything for the future is a bad sign.<\/p>\n It means he doesn\u2019t want to invest in the relationship anymore.<\/p>\n A man could have a myriad of reasons for doing this of course, but if he does these things I just mentioned, he\u2019s essentially bailing out on you and on the relationship.<\/p>\n It\u2019s like he\u2019s got one foot out the door.<\/p>\n Recommended reading: The No BS Reason Why Men Won\u2019t Commit To You (It\u2019s Not What You Think).\u00a0<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Are you getting a lot of attention from other guys?<\/p>\n Do they send you gifts or try to chat you up?<\/p>\n And does your boyfriend know about this? If he does, then it should bother him!<\/p>\n If it doesn\u2019t, then either he\u2019s sabotaging his own reproductive success (for whatever twisted reason), or he\u2019s lost interest in you completely.<\/p>\n When a man loses interest, typically he becomes less responsive to your texts and calls.<\/p>\n It\u2019s possible that he ignores your texts and calls for a few hours because he\u2019s busy trying to build his own business from the ground up (been there myself, and he\u2019s my husband now).<\/p>\n But if he is not responsive when you text or call him and <\/em>he doesn\u2019t care to call or text you back<\/strong><\/a>, then there\u2019s a problem.<\/p>\n It\u2019s not a problem if it only lasts a week while he\u2019s focused on other important things.<\/p>\n But it\u2019s a problem if this lasts for months on end.<\/p>\n Especially if he used to be more responsive.<\/p>\n If he\u2019s always ignored your texts and calls then really nothing has changed.<\/p>\n It\u2019s the change in responsiveness that is concerning.<\/p>\n MORE: THIS Is Why Men Don\u2019t Call More Often\u2026<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Have you ever seen those sweet husbands bringing flowers to their wives -even after being married for 50 years?<\/p>\n Yeah, even those guys do something romantic for their wife (at least) once a year.<\/p>\n If your man of a few weeks or months can\u2019t make you breakfast in bed or write a sweet card on your birthday, then it\u2019s time to wonder what\u2019s going on.<\/p>\n Maybe you\u2019ve been fighting a lot and it\u2019s killed his interest in you (but it will be back later when you guys make up).<\/p>\n But if he used to be romantic and hasn\u2019t bothered being so for months or years, then he might be losing interest.<\/p>\n MORE: When He Stops Chasing You & Being Romantic: What To Do?<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n The truth is, even the least romantic men show their appreciation, adoration and love through a loving touch of the hand or a kiss on your forehead.<\/p>\n Or maybe they\u2019ll surprise you with a coffee from your favorite caf\u00e9 on Sunday morning.<\/p>\n Whatever it is, the cheapest men in the world will at least try.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n If your guy hasn\u2019t done anything at all<\/em> for months \u2013 and he doesn\u2019t care that he hasn\u2019t done anything for months, he\u2019s either lost interest completely or was never interested in the first place.<\/p>\n CLICK here to discover the one thing you can say to ANY man that will capture his attention, trigger his curiosity and make him hang onto every word you say!\u00a0<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n What kind of questions?<\/p>\n Even simple questions like, \u201chow was your catch up with Mary?\u201d or \u201chow was your day?\u201d.<\/p>\n Better still, a guy who is invested in you would ask questions such as:<\/p>\n \u201cHow was your workout? Anyone hit on you at the gym?\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n \u201cHow was your sleep?\u201d (the bare minimum of a question to ask your lover, really).<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n \u201cWhat would you like to do on the weekend?\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n Or\u2026<\/p>\n \u201cDid your boss get under your skin today?\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n It\u2019s not that hard for a man to ask you some questions, really.<\/p>\n Related: Why Men Pull Away & How to Stay High Value.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Some couples are more like friends<\/strong> every day of the week, but these couples usually don\u2019t consciously know that they\u2019re not in the highest value romantic relationship.<\/p>\n Unless they\u2019re asexual and don\u2019t care for romance or sex.<\/p>\n In any good<\/em> intimate relationship, there\u2019s that element of lust or being \u201cin love\u201d.<\/p>\n You worship each other simply because you\u2019re in love with each other.<\/p>\n However, if you used to be like that with your man and your relationship has been downgraded to \u201cbuddy buddies\u201d type of interactions, then he may prefer you there.<\/p>\n In other words, it may be a conscious decision on his part, because he wants to let you down slowly or see the relationship disintegrate more gradually.<\/p>\n Some guys have guilt over breaking up with a woman completely, so it makes sense that they\u2019d want to let you down slowly.<\/p>\n It\u2019s like you don\u2019t exist.<\/p>\n Even if you changed your hair color from blonde to black, he wouldn\u2019t notice.<\/p>\n And what about when you spend two hours getting dressed and doing your makeup? Does he say anything about it?<\/p>\n Does he compliment you or tell you that he likes your eye makeup?<\/p>\n Not every guy is going to be able to compliment you or give you attention, because a lot of the time, men don\u2019t have a whole lot of attention to give.<\/p>\n At least not as much as us women would prefer.<\/p>\n Recommended: How to Understand Men: 5 Insights On Men to Ease Your Worries.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n But what about when he doesn\u2019t notice anything about you at all?<\/p>\n What about when he doesn\u2019t even notice drastic changes in your physical appearance?<\/p>\n The thing with this is that it doesn\u2019t just mean he doesn\u2019t notice your looks, it means he doesn\u2019t care.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n There are 7 common signs a woman is perceived as low value to all men, because men simply perceive value differently to women. Do you know what these signs are and how to avoid them like the plague? CLICK HERE to download this special report. <\/span><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Maybe he was a womanizer right from the start. If so, then ignore this sign, as he wasn\u2019t ever committed to you anyway.<\/p>\n But if you guys were deeply in love and totally devoted to each other before <\/em>and now he\u2019s off chasing other women or hitting them up on instagram, that is something different entirely.<\/p>\n That\u2019s him showing that he isn\u2019t as committed<\/strong><\/a> to you emotionally and physically as he was before, and that\u2019s a very sad thing to have to realize.<\/p>\n There are cases when couples go through a bad patch, and if you\u2019re with a guy who\u2019s naturally disloyal, he may stray because it\u2019s a part of his personality.<\/p>\n This doesn\u2019t always mean your relationship with him in unsalvageable.<\/p>\n But would you want a man like that?<\/p>\n I know that if my man started chasing other women, I\u2019d take it as a sign he\u2019s no longer interested.<\/p>\n A guy could chase other women and still try to keep you around in the background of course, but that doesn\u2019t indicate an interest in the relationship.<\/p>\n It indicates an interest in keeping you around for his own benefit,<\/strong><\/a> or perhaps a desire to control you.<\/p>\n In this video I explain the difference between the woman men commit to versus the women men leave:<\/p>\n \n\n
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\u201cInterest\u201d Is The Lowest Level Of Value You Can Get From Men<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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But What About When He Really HAS Lost Interest?<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Am I Overthinking Or Is He Losing Interest?<\/strong><\/h2>\n
#1: He Always Seems Bored & Uninterested Around You<\/strong><\/h2>\n
#2: He Doesn\u2019t Want To Spend Time With You<\/strong><\/h2>\n
#3: He Doesn\u2019t Plan For Your Future Together<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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#7: He Does Not Ask Questions Anymore<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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#8: He Treats You Like A Friend<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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<\/a><\/figure>\n#9: He Doesn\u2019t Notice Anything About You<\/strong><\/h2>\n
#10: He\u2019s Courting Other Women<\/strong><\/h2>\n