Many women ask the question \u201cwhy men won\u2019t commit to me?\u201d<\/p>\n
This article will give you a guy\u2019s perspective on why some men find it hard to, or don\u2019t want to commit.<\/p>\n
First of all, we have to look at what a committed relationship means<\/em><\/strong> to most guys.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s take you out of the equation for a minute, and just consider the general idea <\/em>of a committed relationship.<\/p>\n In a nutshell, it requires giving up an enormous proportion of his time, energy, money and emotional resources.<\/p>\n Of course, some guys give up more of these things than others inside of a long term relationship or marriage.<\/p>\n Regardless, that\u2019s what the concept of commitment entails for men. (And women, too. But here we\u2019re discussing why men <\/em><\/strong>won\u2019t commit).<\/p>\n Before you proceed to roll your eyes at how immature it is of men to feel resistant to giving up all the mentioned things (time, energy money and emotional resources), let me ask you a few questions\u2026<\/p>\n Would you love to commit to a $3,000 a month mortgage?<\/p>\n Would you love to commit to taking the trash out every week?<\/p>\n Would you love to commit to doing the dish washing every single day?<\/p>\n What about cleaning the toilets?<\/p>\n In all the above questions, the word commit has a very obligatory undertone.<\/strong><\/p>\n It almost feels like committing to something would mean that we are obligated to do something<\/strong> and we would therefore have to surrender our own freedom.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n The word commitment almost has a feel of \u201cI don\u2019t really want to do this, but I have to, or I should but it\u2019s not going to be the most pleasant experience.\u201d<\/p>\n Obligation, or the feeling of obligation, is one major reason why men won\u2019t commit.<\/p>\n (Click here to take the quiz on \u201cAm I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?\u201d)<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n QUIZ TIME: Is your man serious about committing to you? CLICK HERE to find out with this specially crafted quiz!<\/span><\/b> (All the answers you seek about him lie within these 8 questions.)<\/a><\/p>\n Let\u2019s talk about the idea of \u201cgot to do\u201d something versus \u201cget<\/em><\/strong> to do\u201d something\u2026<\/p>\n Feeling like you\u2019re obligated to do something never feels that good, right?<\/p>\n Life is a lot more fun when you get<\/em><\/strong> to do something, not when you got<\/em><\/strong> to do something! Men know this subconsciously.<\/p>\n One of the biggest desires for men, regardless of tradition or culture, is freedom.<\/p>\n The Masculine energy strives to break free<\/u> and experience freedom. It wants release<\/u> from the constraints of life.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Some men fight for their whole lives for freedom, and to experience freedom.<\/p>\n Usually once they find that sense of freedom, they would never let it go.<\/p>\n QUIZ TIME: Are you truly living in your feminine energy? CLICK HERE to find out with my specially crafted 9 Question Quiz!<\/span><\/b><\/a><\/p>\n When we love<\/strong> to do something, it is never an obligation.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t ever hear men complaining about going to golf \u2013 but work is a different matter.<\/p>\n More people die on Monday mornings at 9am than any other time in the week, for example. Coincidence?<\/p>\n Tell me ladies, is it easy or hard to commit to a shopping spree?<\/strong><\/p>\n What about committing to washing the dishes every day? Is there a difference?<\/p>\n From a man\u2019s perspective, he would have to buy stuff for you, spend lots of money, (it\u2019s not so bad if he\u2019s got the money to spend, but if he doesn\u2019t\u2026), spend time with you listening to all the good and bad stuff that you have to say, spend time when you request his presence etc.<\/p>\n From his perspective, he will have to fork out all these resources that he may not even feel like he has.<\/p>\n So the question he will ask, (consciously or subconsciously), is whether you are worth all this or not<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Some men just don\u2019t want to deal with the excess baggage that women sometimes carry.<\/p>\n And who would?<\/p>\n It\u2019s a burden on one\u2019s life. This burden and the thought of it, can be a scary thing for a man to deal with.<\/p>\n The thought of dealing with excess baggage, or a woman\u2019s complaints and constant dissatisfaction and need for him doesn\u2019t make the man feel good whilst being with you.<\/p>\n And the last thing you want to create for him is a terrible association with you and the thought of you.<\/strong><\/p>\n It all goes back to men and their desire to feel free.<\/p>\n None of this sounds good to you as a woman, I\u2019m sure. After all, we all want someone to love us. Preferably unconditionally, right?<\/p>\n But we have to consider what we\u2019re asking of men here, before we can truly solve the problem and get him to commit to you.<\/p>\n Recommended: 8 Unusual Signs He Will Eventually Commit.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n So for a lot of women who are in the situation where he won\u2019t commit \u2013 the question naturally becomes, shouldn\u2019t men just grow up?<\/p>\n Shouldn\u2019t they just be more responsible and stop being little boys in big boys\u2019 clothing?<\/p>\n Well, my question to you is: do you want to be a \u201cresponsibility\u201d?<\/strong><\/p>\n Or would you rather be something precious that he can\u2019t help but want to hold on to, cherish and take care of?<\/p>\n In other words, his one and only woman?<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n While you\u2019re reading this, and feeling that perhaps men are not willing to GROW UP, just remember, it has nothing to do with growing up.<\/p>\n It is men\u2019s desire for freedom. If they didn\u2019t desire it, they wouldn\u2019t be men, and you wouldn\u2019t feel attraction for them in the first place.<\/strong><\/p>\n As hard as it may be for you to accept men\u2019s desire for freedom, you will get closer to getting him to commit if you can.<\/p>\n Because when you can accept and better still, appreciate this desire for freedom in men, you can at least be on the same page as him.<\/p>\n And when you\u2019re on the same page, he will feel more connected to you, and therefore perceive more value in committing to you.<\/p>\n CLICK HERE to discover the ONE PHRASE <\/span><\/b>you can say to ANY man that will capture his attention, trigger his curiosity and make him hang onto every word you say! (Works like magic in a high vale non-needy way!)<\/a><\/p>\n The point is; if you want a man to commit, if you want a passionate, happy long-lasting\u00a0 relationship, don\u2019t ask<\/strong> for your man to commit.<\/p>\n MORE: How to Get Him to WANT to Commit to You.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n If you ask that of him, and he delivers this \u201ccommitment\u201d even though he knows he will feel less freedom because of it, then you are taking away his masculinity<\/a> and what makes you attracted to him in the first place<\/strong>.<\/p>\n By saying you\u2019re taking that away, he\u2019s really just surrendering<\/em> it.<\/p>\n What will happen after a while, is that, sure he\u2019s around you more often, but you\u2019ll have less attraction for him.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll have the security of his presence by your side, but you\u2019re trading off the passion that you could create in the relationship.<\/p>\n There is NO commitment needed when you do the things you love<\/strong> to do. You just do it.<\/p>\n (Here\u2019s a video David made on the 3 Reasons All Men Secretly Love To Commit.)<\/strong><\/p>\n \n![\"Why](\"https:\/\/www.thefemininewoman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/05\/ring.jpg\")
<\/a><\/figure>\n<\/div>\nWhat does commitment entail for a man?<\/h2>\n
Why Won\u2019t He Commit To Me?<\/strong><\/h2>\n
Why Men Won\u2019t Commit: Obligation Murders Freedom<\/strong><\/h3>\n
<\/a>What Does It Really Mean For A Man To Commit To A Woman?<\/strong><\/h3>\n
<\/a><\/figure>\n<\/div>\nShould Men Just \u201cGrow Up\u201d & Be More Responsible?<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Should You \u201cAsk\u201d Him To Commit To You?<\/strong><\/h3>\n