If I pull away from him will he want me more?<\/p>\n
This is a question many women have asked themselves when they feel a man\u2019s interest waning.<\/p>\n
The short answer is no.<\/p>\n
Pulling away from a man doesn\u2019t make him want you more by default.<\/p>\n
In fact, if a man doesn\u2019t see value in you, he\u2019ll be glad you\u2019re pulling away.<\/p>\n
Having said that, I know a lot of people would disagree with me. They will say that pulling away \u201cworks\u201d to make him want you more.<\/p>\n
But it\u2019s a last resort.<\/p>\n
Because if you have to pull away to make a guy want you, then there was no real romantic connection to begin with.<\/p>\n
In other words, he didn\u2019t really fall in love with you.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Any couple who are deeply in love with each other can attest to this:\u00a0<\/p>\n A man who\u2019s in love with a woman will want you regardless of whether you\u2019re with him often or whether you\u2019re absent emotionally or physically (pulling away).<\/p>\n Be aware though, that I am referring to romantic love, not mad lust or infatuation.<\/p>\n The bottom line:<\/p>\n If pulling away is the deciding factor of <\/a>whether he will come back or not,<\/a> <\/strong>that\u2019s not love.<\/p>\n That\u2019s an empty game of cat and mouse between a man and a woman who aren\u2019t meant for each other.\u00a0<\/p>\n But they still want attention and company from the opposite sex of course!<\/p>\n A lot of women want to know whether being distant makes a man come closer to them.<\/p>\n It doesn\u2019t romantically or emotionally.<\/p>\n It might bring him closer when he wants something from you (like sex or attention) and is afraid of losing it.<\/p>\n But that\u2019s not real value for you as a woman.<\/p>\n Real value is when he wants to commit to you emotionally.<\/p>\n And distancing yourself is no way \u2013 I repeat, no way \u2013 to bring him closer emotionally or romantically.\u00a0<\/p>\n In fact, distancing yourself can create deep disconnects and make him lose trust in you.<\/p>\n If you want to distance yourself because you\u2019ve been chasing him and want to stop that, then the way to go about it is not just to distance yourself.<\/p>\n Rather, it\u2019s in simply not constantly chasing him and instead, finding other avenues to gain or create value in your own life.<\/p>\n If you truly want to bring him closer, <\/a>try these game changing ways to\u00a0 build emotional connection with a man.<\/a>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n And if you\u2019d like to discover how to inspire real emotional commitment<\/a><\/strong> from a man, the answer is in inspiring him to feel emotional attraction for you.<\/p>\n There is one specific emotional trigger you can use that will make him feel deep emotional attraction for you, would you like to find out what this one emotional trigger is?<\/p>\n CLICK HERE to LEARN the One Specific Emotional Trigger Within Every Masculine Man That Inspires Him to Want to Take Care of You, Worship You and Deeply Commit to You.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Remember this:<\/strong><\/p>\n Just because you\u2019re \u201chard to get\u201d, doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re valuable.<\/p>\n That may sound harsh, like I\u2019m telling you that if a guy doesn\u2019t want you, then you must not be \u201cenough\u201d.<\/p>\n That\u2019s not true.<\/p>\n You are plenty enough. You are as worthy as they come, otherwise you wouldn\u2019t have been born into this world.<\/p>\n Just by being born you are worthy.<\/p>\n But the painful truth is that the less value we offer, the less men want us, and vice versa.<\/p>\n Some of us simply offer more value than others, by virtue of being:<\/p>\n Just as an example, a lot of women aren\u2019t attracted to boring men.<\/p>\n Boring men just don\u2019t have a lot to offer a woman in a relationship or in the bedroom.<\/p>\n Conversely, men who are fun, playful, funny, energetic, healthy and full of integrity and masculine direction are naturally higher value.\u00a0<\/p>\n They offer any red blooded woman a lot more than other boring men who might even make you prefer to watch plants grow.<\/p>\n I explain more about the concept of why playing hard to get doesn\u2019t change how valuable you are in my article How to Make Him Chase You And Value You [High Value Women Secrets].<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0<\/p>\n But now let\u2019s get back to the original question of how to pull away to make him want you, because there is some advice I can give you around this idea.<\/p>\n Pulling away should never be about pulling away love, punishing a man or gaining power.<\/p>\n Pulling away can simply be a chance to take a break and build your value as a woman.<\/p>\n (Just with no intent to cause hurt or gain power). <\/p>\n But in the process of pulling away, you have to consciously focus on value, because that\u2019s where everything lies.<\/p>\n For example, you can pull away to:<\/p>\n Just be aware that these things come with a conscious willingness and effort though.\u00a0<\/p>\n They don\u2019t just \u201ccome\u201d as a natural consequence of you pulling away from a man.\u00a0<\/p>\n Would you like to know how to stay as a high value woman when he pulls away?\u00a0<\/p>\n CLICK here to discover the secret to showing up & staying as a high value woman when your man pulls away,<\/strong><\/a> (\u2026so that he can come back to you with more interest, more desire & more appreciation for you.)<\/p>\n Just so you get an idea of the consequences of you pulling away from a guy, let\u2019s look at what happens to a man when a woman pulls away.<\/p>\n What happens to a man depends on these factors:<\/p>\n A lot of these things overlap and blend into each other, but there\u2019s no one strict answer to what happens to a man when a woman pulls away.<\/p>\n You must consider the context before you can gain a truthful answer.<\/p>\n Because if you don\u2019t, you\u2019ll get fluff or some nonsense answer that\u2019s designed to distract you from what\u2019s real.\u00a0<\/p>\n So here are a few things that happen to a man when you pull away in specific contexts:<\/p>\n Recommended: How to Turn The Tables When He Pulls Away in 7 Fail Proof Steps.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n Related: 8 Ultimate Signs A Man Is Emotionally Attached To You.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n So that is what happens to a man when a woman pulls away in some different contexts.<\/p>\n Ultimately you need to work out the unique circumstances of your relationship and do the following:<\/p>\n Going back to what I said before, there is a way to pull away that may make him want you, but the \u201cbenefits\u201d of you pulling away don\u2019t just happen as a result of you pulling away.<\/p>\n They happen as a result of you making the conscious effort to build the important aspects of the relationship.<\/p>\n Aspects such as attraction and connection \u2013 the two most crucial things in any relationship.<\/p>\n Remember though:<\/p>\n If a guy was only into you casually to begin with, none of this will have any lasting effect. Ie: it won\u2019t make him come back for good.<\/p>\n If your relationship with him was just based on sex and there was no emotional commitment to begin with, the following methods might help you increase the chances of him falling in love with you\u2026<\/p>\n But these factors will only have a lasting and valuable effect if he was already in love.\u00a0<\/p>\n Also:<\/p>\n Since you\u2019re already at a point in the relationship where he\u2019s losing interest or pulling away<\/strong><\/a> (and you\u2019re trying to work out whether you should pull away to make him want you), we have to accept that we\u2019re working with some deficits here.\u00a0<\/p>\n Not only that, but even if there\u2019s no specific negative history in the relationship, it still wasn\u2019t built on strong enough foundations to make him fall in love.<\/p>\n In other words, don\u2019t expect to change the nature of the connection you had with him.\u00a0<\/p>\n Here\u2019s a quick lesson on why:<\/p>\n It\u2019s because men place the women they date into two baskets:<\/p>\n And if he only ever saw you as \u201cone of many\u201d women in his life, he\u2019ll likely only ever see you that way.<\/p>\n There is a chance that you can <\/a>make him see you as one and only<\/a> <\/strong>and fall in love \u2013 but you have to work hard at it and realize that the chance is small given the history.<\/p>\n (The better solution would have been to make sure you ended up in the \u201cone and only\u201d basket from the start) \u2013 and if you were not in that basket, to eliminate the guy and move on quickly.<\/p>\n By the way, if you would like to learn how to show up as any man\u2019s one and only and make him fall madly in love, grab a copy of my \u201cBecoming His One and Only\u201d Program.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n (The promise of this course is for you to have your chosen man fall in love with you & beg you to be his one & only by embodying these 5 feminine secrets, even if he\u2019s been distant, avoidant, or losing interest\u2026)<\/p>\n Recommended: The NO.1 Trait of Dating Profile That Men Fall In Love With.<\/em><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Take the time to relax into your feminine<\/strong><\/a>, because relaxing into your feminine energy can help you become more submissive<\/a><\/strong> and open to a man\u2019s masculine energy.<\/p>\n This can increase your chances of creating intimacy and polarity in the relationship, which is a type of value in itself.<\/p>\n Here\u2019s how you do it:<\/p>\n QUIZ TIME: Are you truly living in your feminine energy? CLICK HERE to find out with my specially crafted 9 Question Quiz!<\/span><\/b><\/a><\/p>\n This means to let yourself feel all of the unresolved emotions that came with being with this man.<\/p>\n Did you sense that he wasn\u2019t committed but didn\u2019t allow yourself to fully feel it?<\/p>\n If so, feel it now.<\/p>\n Do you feel that your man is trying in the relationship, but you\u2019re not noticing that or appreciating the small ways he does try to communicate with you or make things better?<\/p>\n If so, then try to acknowledge and allow yourself to feel the relief and appreciation.<\/p>\n If you want to know how to pull away to make him want you, then this is one of the more natural ways:<\/p>\n If he was the one who needed space, then just give it to him!<\/p>\n You don\u2019t have to hang on for dear life, because if he asked for space then he most likely means that he needed space.<\/p>\n So, allow him that space.\u00a0<\/p>\n You are not his bodyguard, mother or interrogator.<\/p>\n You are meant to be a woman who adds value to his life.<\/p>\n QUIZ TIME: Is your man serious about committing to you? CLICK HERE to find out with this specially crafted quiz!<\/span><\/b> (All the answers you seek about him lie within these 8 questions.)<\/a><\/p>\n This is a flow-on step from step number 3.\u00a0<\/p>\n If you\u2019re willing to give him space, then watch it give him the opportunity to appreciate you more through your absence.<\/p>\n If you find that you do this and he shows no signs of appreciating you more, then well done \u2013 you may have just eliminated the man who was wrong for you.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t just pull away to feel powerful in the relationship, because it doesn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n It\u2019s a fake solution to a genuine problem that may not even have a solution.\u00a0<\/p>\n Ie: if the relationship was built on weak foundations to begin with, you\u2019re unlikely to build a strong one now.<\/p>\n Especially not by just pulling away.<\/p>\n Most women pull away to try to gain more power in the relationship, and this ends up being the exact thing that spells the end of the relationship.<\/p>\n Which I guess is a good thing if you are ok with seeing the end of the relationship play out.<\/p>\n But if you want to add value to the relationship and try to make it work with this guy, don\u2019t pull away to make him want you more.<\/p>\n Pull away to bring value to the relationship by taking all of the previous 4 steps I\u2019ve mentioned, as well as building your intrinsic value.<\/p>\n To do this, you\u2019ll need to:<\/p>\n Usually because they never had the opportunity to develop beyond their fears and cultivate a beautiful playfulness in their personality.<\/p>\n A playfulness which by its very nature, makes men fall head over heels in love.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n Remember this: <\/strong><\/p>\n Playfulness is the precursor to emotional attraction.<\/strong>\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n So, use it to your benefit, and cultivate the courage you need in order to start to banter with your man (or with men in general).<\/p>\n Here is How to Banter With Men to Build Attraction.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n And if you\u2019d like to get FREE samples of banter lines as well as a lesson on how to develop the skill of banter, take my husband David\u2019s free high value banter class here.<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0<\/p>\n This is the same theory behind \u201cleaning back\u201d to make him come to you.<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n And those of you who know my work would know my thoughts on this already.<\/p>\n But if you\u2019re unfamiliar, here\u2019s what I believe:<\/p>\n Being passive is not a good way to be successful in love.\u00a0<\/p>\n What does sitting back accomplish other than making yourself scarce to a man?<\/p>\n As I explain in my article <\/a>\u201cDon\u2019t Text Him And He Will Text You: True Or False?\u201d,<\/a> <\/strong>making yourself scarce doesn\u2019t make you more valuable.<\/p>\n Sitting back is passive and fearful. It\u2019s what you do when you:<\/p>\n While I understand you wanting to sit back and let him come to you instead of chasing, it\u2019s not a real solution.<\/p>\n It\u2019s an attempt to avoid looking a certain way.\u00a0<\/p>\n Simply be a woman of value to men and you won\u2019t have to \u201cavoid\u201d doing this and doing that, including reaching out to a man.<\/p>\n Because you\u2019ll be able to reach out in a way that actually adds real value.<\/p>\n There are 7 common signs a woman is perceived as low value to all men, because men simply perceive value differently to women. Do you know what these signs are and how to avoid them like the plague? CLICK HERE to download this special report. <\/span><\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n If your man is pulling away or losing interest right now, then don\u2019t start pulling away cold turkey.<\/p>\n That\u2019s a power struggle. It\u2019s not smart and it\u2019s not real long-term thinking.<\/p>\n (This kind of behavior can also make you feel guilty in the long run, because you know you\u2019re not being authentic.)<\/p>\n Instead, follow the steps above and if you don\u2019t bring this man back to you, at least you would have added real value to yourself which will help you attract a man who truly is in love with you and ready to give you a committed relationship.<\/p>\n By the way, one thing you may want to do is work out how likely this man is to commit to you.<\/p>\n You can do that with our easy and free quiz:<\/p>\n QUIZ TIME: Is your man serious about committing to you? CLICK HERE to find out with this specially crafted quiz!<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n Renee is the founder of The Feminine Woman & co-founder of Shen Wade Media where we teach women how to show up as a high value high status woman whom easily inspires a deep sense of emotional commitment from her chosen man. Together with her husband D. Shen at Commitment Triggers blog<\/a>, they have positively influenced the lives of over 15 million women through their free articles and videos as well as 10\u2019s of thousands through paid programs through the Shen Wade Media platform.<\/p>\n Connect deeper with her work through the social media links below.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div>\n![\"How](\"https:\/\/www.thefemininewoman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/02\/love-1024x790.jpg\")
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What Happens to A Man When A Woman Pulls Away?<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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Context #2: If You Were Just Casual Sex Partners (No Emotional Commitment)<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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Context #3: He Was Attached to You, But Not In Love<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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How to Pull Away to Make Him Want You<\/strong><\/h2>\n
Step #1: Build Your Feminine Energy<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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Step #2: Process Unresolved Emotions<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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Step #4: Offer Him The Opportunity to Appreciate You More<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Step #5: Build Your Value<\/strong><\/h3>\n
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Sit Back And Let Him Come To You: Is There Truth In This?<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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